Finding your life partner is exciting and usually a sudden spark that grows into a great flame. While your marriage can be a roaring fire with intense passion, some couples grow apart sexually and find that they are more of roommates than husband and wife.
Are you looking to bring back that amazing sex life in your home again? Here is how to fix a sexless marriage.
The relationship problem is often a lack of communication, which is no different regarding sex. There is a reason why you are not having sex, and it needs to be brought out in the open because you are losing valuable time in silence.
Come out and ask your partner why you aren’t getting it on. Then take heed of what they say and start making changes immediately. If someone is emotionally hurt, it will take time to mend it, but they will heal and return to you if you put in the effort. Don’t expect to chat and then jump into bed immediately because this may require lots of talking to find your emotional and sexual drive again.
2. Introduce Sex Toys
A sexless marriage is about a lack of fulfillment and pleasure; not everyone knows what to do between the sheets. You can greatly enhance the experience and up your sexual game with sex toys.
While once considered taboo, many couples bring in sexual aids to spice things up. Adult sex toys allow you to achieve orgasm fast and find erogenous zones you didn’t even know you had. You can get toys that are used together and ones that are for solo fun.
Vibrators are great for clitoral stimulation while a man licks the labia and anus and works in concert for an intense orgasm. Butt toys can stimulate around the anus and inside, including massaging the prostate for an intense ejaculation. Solo toys are also beneficial because you can watch each other masturbate for added excitement and be sexually when you are alone.
Self-pleasure puts you into a sexual mindset and reminds you of how great it feels to have an orgasm. This will help lead you back to each other and be intimate again.
3. Make Time For Each Other
Life pulls us in many directions; you don’t have to answer to anyone when you are single. Within a marriage, you no longer have the singularity of choices. Although you shouldn’t lose your identity and sense of self, you are a committed team member, and this team should be your priority.
Spend quality and quantity time together. This can be going out to do an activity or doing nothing on the couch. The more you are in each other’s presence, the more you will connect because you prioritize the relationship. When both people are valued in a marriage, they will likely feel loved and want to express that sexually.
4. Get Physical
When I say physical, it means making contact and getting into each other’s aura. Beyond the touch, there is an energy that we all have, and you should connect with it and share your emotional space.
Physical also means direct contact, skin to skin. This can be achieved in many ways, including:
- Holding hands
- Playful touching
In a sexless marriage, you have to re-establish that physical contact before you can take it in a sexual direction or else you risk losing all you have gained. Touching helps reinvigorate your attraction and leads to passion, so make constant contact and slowly guide it toward intimacy.
5. Be Generous
Sometimes the reason a marriage stops being sexual is because one partner feels that they are not being taken care of. Sex often is one-sided, and it could be:
- With A Man: He may be expecting oral sex until climax and it’s over or quick intercourse until he has an orgasm, and that’s it.
- With A Woman: She may not participate too much and expect the man to do everything or feel she is just the vessel for his release.
Love is when a person’s needs are more important than your own, and this holds for sex as well. As you bring intimacy back into the relationship, give way more than you receive. This means exploring your partner’s body and fully pleasuring them before even considering penetration. When given this kind of attention, they will surely want to reciprocate, and then both of you get what you want and more.
Sex in the marriage will become much more than pleasurable; an intense connection of emotion and physicality heightens your sexual sensations and drains you completely. Be a generous lover, and you will never have a dry spell.
A sexless marriage is like a puzzle piece missing from the relationship, so use these ideas to fix it and enjoy each other’s bodies again.